When a man experiences a painful loss and is faced with the complexities of love, loneliness and the challenges of marriage, he learns how to find humor, meaning, and life, through darkness, pain and loss—“in sickness and in health.”
It took Scott four long seasons of grieving for his lost wife before he found strength, courage and a new beginning. He shares his perspective and advice: "Always treat your partner as if they'll be taken away from you tomorrow."
"This is not an easy thing to do with our day-to-day lives, but that's what I strive for. When something like this happens to you, it definitely changes you. You attempt to appreciate every minute with the people that you love. This doesn't have to be a mate ,of course; it can be a child or parent."
Scott Oglesby is a transplanted Southern writer living in Manhattan. Published works include essays in The West Side Spirit,The Villager, Bellevue Literary Review, and Gravel. His critique of David Amram’s book Upbeat: Nine Lives of a Musical Cat appeared in the American Book Review.
He also published a novel, Riding High—a ten-year project that he and his wife Helene finished the month before she died. She was an editor and also created the cover art. A tribute to her along with more of Scott's work can be seen on his website at www.ridinghigh.net. Currently, he is compiling a memoir-in-essays with the working title, All Over the Place — Old, Misguided and White.
Visit Scott on Facebook and Twitter (@RidinghyScott) and through email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Gys de Villiers was born in South Africa. He has built an impressive theatre, film and television career in South Africa and abroad.Since moving to New York in 2015 he has starred in an additional 112 short films, adverts, corporate videos, web series, music video's and plays. He has garnered 15 awards for his work in film and theatre. The latest being two times Best Actor in a short at: The International Filmmaker Festival Of World Cinema Nice, also Southern States Indie Fanfilmfest 2017. Gys is also an accomplished sculptor.
Highlights include: Playing FW De Klerk opposite Idris Elba in Mandela Long Walk To Freedom, DS. Smith opposite the late Paul Walker in Vehicle 19 and Saturnine opposite Sir Anthony Sher in Titus Andronicus at the National Theater in London. Visit Gys on his website and enjoy watching his amazing work here.
Scott's essay, "The Best That Love Could," was originally published by the Bellevue Literary Review
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